Arranging a funeral for a loved one can be very challenging for a family. Ensuring a loved one’s final wishes can be properly met can only happen if the family or person organising the funeral knows exactly what their loved one wanted.

Often, families are left with no ideas and when there are several people involved in arranging a funeral, it is not always easy to agree. Sometimes a persons own preferences come to mind, without considering what is relevant or appropriate for their departed loved one.

If you have a clear idea of what you want to have at your own funeral then why not prepare it in advance. Write it down and tell somebody close to you. Attach it with your Will if you have one and ensure that your next of kin is aware of your plan.

That should ensure that your final ceremony is conducted to your own personal requirements and of course; it will take so much pressure off your relatives who will be grieving and all wanting to do their best for you.

These are some of the things you may wish to set out in a living funeral plan.

  • Cremation, interment of ashes, scattering of ashes, church, public cemetery or natural burial or interment, donating of your body to medical Science? Or something else?
  • Who will officiate? Will it be a Minister of your chosen Religion, a Celebrant or member of your family or a friend?
  • What music would you like for a service? Favourite and meaningful songs, maybe something to lighten the mood?
  • What about Readings or poems, do you have a favourite?
  • Do you want the Crematorium curtains left open or closed.
  • Do you want your mourners to wear black or bright colours; or something in between?
  • Do you want your ceremony to be a celebration of your life or a time of sadness and mourning?
  • Include your own thoughts or philosophy on life after death. What do you believe happens to us after we end our physical presence?
  • Where specifically would you like to be laid to rest?
  • What sort of wake would you like your family to hold? A quiet time of reflation with tea and cake or maybe a great big party!

The choice is yours, but no-one will know unless you tell them.

Let me help you draft the ceremony of your living wishes.

There is no obligation to use me as your Celebrant at your passing, but of course it would be an honour for me to ensure your wishes are respected and to conduct the ceremony to your personal design and choice.

If you would like me to support you and draft your chosen ceremony, please get in touch using the forms on this website or email: and I will be happy to arrange a personal home visit.

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